This cute picture up above… This is how I usually deal with anger. I imagine a cute (but very sassy) image in my mind, happening to the other person.
As much as we try, we are all bound to run into someone who is going to annoy the bleep out of us, or make us so angry we could spit nails.
One thing I was taught from an extremely early age was that if you let the offender/betrayer/jerk or just plain a–hat truly get to you for too long…THEY HAVE WON. If you let them change the good parts of you (even if they are no longer around), they have won.
Its something I have always tried to remember in the most difficult of times. It usually worked as a good anchor for my heart and soul. 💖
There are days though, that ‘the bad’ get to me. I become disheartened and lose hope. I understand bitterness and anger more than most people realize, I just don’t want to live there.
When it comes to a screeching halt, when I’ve tolerated things to the point where I can’t tolerate them anymore, then I “slam the INFJ door” :), like that re-post I shared. It has to get really bad, and I mean really bad in order for me to do that, but once I have, there is nothing. Only a peaceful still and emptied out space for something better, healthier and ‘truly good’ to fill that space again, some day.
I’m not saying there isn’t work in letting go of the hurt or working through the anger, but it is worth it. And when you are done, often the only thing left is a funny picture in your head, like the one above, about how unimportant the individual who once hurt you, now is and how much stronger and more resilient you are…no matter what.
It takes time, but you get there. ❤️